How should I handle this situation?
Question by Lulus Momma: How should I handle this situation?
I had 3 cars. One was my SUV that was primarily what I used for road trips when I took my dog. I had a little Nissan for local errands and I had a sonata for driving to work. It was my ‘nice’ car without dog hair.
My niece needed a car. At first I was going to give her the Nissan but it had a car payment on it and everyone was working to try to get her a car without a car payment. At the time my niece was a senior in high school and was only making an hour as a cashier and worked about 20 hours a week.
My dog had died.
So my dad made a joke and said ‘you could let me have your SUV and I could give her my Kia” So I said OK. The SUV didn’t have a car payment and it was still pretty new and only had 70,000 miles on it. His Kia didn’t have a car payment either so when he gave it to the niece she got a car without a car payment. Well 2 months of her having the Kia – it clunkered out and was in the shop for a month and no one could fix it. So to make a long story short, she now has my Nissan. I paid it off.
When I gave the SUV to my dad I laid down some ‘rules’ as in 1. you can’t sell it, 2. you can’t trade it in on another car and 3. Mom can’t smoke in it in case I get it back I want it to be a smoke free car.
So now 2 years has passed. I want to get another dog. I don’t want the dog in my only remaining car – the nice car.
Since my dad has had the benefit of using a car without any payments for 2 years – would it be bad to tell him I want it back?
My parents have 2 other cars – a Toyota Corolla (my mom’s work car) and a BMW z4 – my mom’s pleasure car.
And for the record, my mom regularly drives the SUV and smokes in it all the time.
I miss the SUV – we took it on a family trip to St. Louis in August and I said I missed my SUV.
Given they never paid me a penny and I did set the expectation that I might want it back at some time – would it be bad to tell them I now want it back?
I gave them the car within a month of my dog dying and I did it because in my mental state I just thought I didn’t need a dog car – and I was trying to help fix a family situation so my niece could have a way to work.
Best answer:
Answer by Evie
Wow first of all I have never heard of people having so many cars for different things. You should ask for it back and say your circumstances are going to change, you know they have two cars and you would like yours back now please. You are an adult, you gave it in good faith and they have broken one of the rules and you should not feel bad asking for it back after all you paid for it.
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