Unfair relationship? plz help?
Question by Karol the Polak: Unfair relationship? plz help?
I am dating an Asian transfer student and we fell in love the first day we had class together senior year. So this is the end of the school year we are about to graduate. Now, we have a problem, I have been taking her home for about 6 months, but now, all of the sudden, she starts taking the bus… she tells me it is because of another transfer student, a girl, and that is there time to “talk”. But the thing is, the other girl lives with her at her host house.
I keep suspecting another male transfer student that goes on the bus with them because when i get to my car and look at her bus, all three of them are laughing and smiling
Another thing is we keep fighting a lot now, almost every 3 or 4 days. We get mad and then we fix it up.
On Monday, we were so close, we kissed every time we went to another class, i took her home and we texted/spyped her for some time.
Today, not one kiss, when she got on the bus, we just hugged. Today when i went in for a kiss, she “dodged” it so far away and the whole class laughed…
Now, we are fighting again…
I do everything for this girl, buy her food, pick her up if she wants to sleep over… I feel this is a one way relationship, that she is not doing anything to please me… I have been in relationships and by far, this is the best one… I don’t want it to end…
How can i tell her that this relationship isn’t fair?
Also, she thinks i am using her… that i am trying to control her…and she goes OFF! this is after i suggest, literally suggest that we spend more times together. BTW, taking her hand and saying “i feel we need to spend more time together” won’t make it go to her head, she will either laugh and not take it seriously, or just get pissed off…
How can i fix this? what would you do? Please help me!
Best answer:
Answer by Puja
i think that she thinks that she is too good for you now! you should try acting the same way to her and see how she likes it….maybe it will make her understand how you have been feelin
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Tell her that you feel that she’s separating herself from you and that you really love her. Tell her that you want her to be happy and tell her that you are willing to change.(BTW, I do think it’s unfair)
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maybe you should calm down a little, and choose a good time to talk to her when she is in a good mood too..
sumtimes in a relationship, we get bored.. we need a little time alone,
but i think after that she will get back to you again..
maybe you can use this time to reflect whats been going on,. and make it better
To me i think the best way is find a nice good place only the 2 of you and try explaining this again, tell her that u are serious and to not get mad. Tell her that you love being in a relationship with her and you dont want it to end, but u think maybe she should start pulling her weight in the relationship. Hope i helped!